The Does The 'Runner' Run?The overwhelming dynamic in any
twin flame relationship is the dynamic
of the runner and the chaser.
Before a relationship can truly take
hold, one of the pair usually opts out of the intense relationship and
flees. They literally run. When they do, the heartbroken stayer must
make do as best they can with their broken heart. In time, the stayer
begins to question what really went on. Why did he/she run? Was it
something they did or said? This article sheds light on the twin
flame runner's perspective.
Why Do Twin Flames Run?
We have to understand firstly that
twins are often at completely different levels of understanding. One
twin is usually
known as the 'self aware' one, whilst the other is blindly living in
the dark, being much less aware and together
Whilst they may be
together in a worldly sense, spiritually speaking they may be living
unconsciously day by day, not aware of their own motivations and driven
simply by feeling.
When they run, they usually just take off, not even
knowing why, perhaps not even caring why. For them to analyse their own
actions may be altogether unfamiliar. They can be creatures of instinct
more than conscious reasoning, and this is truly painful for the twin
flame 'stayer', the one who doesn't run.
Overwhelming Feelings, The Runner's Perspective
As we get down to the nitty gritty, we realise that they run, not
because they don't love us, but because they DO. Yes, it is one of
those ironies of life that are ever so inconvenient. The more they love
us - remembering this is a new and unaccustomed love - the more they
have to get away from us. Being on the receiving end of this myself, I
know how it feels. At the time, the stayer is devastated! Then as the
years roll on, they can come to understand what may have happened and
The Soul SHOCK Of Twin Flame Relationships
There is something known as soul
when we meet our exact mirror soul mate, our twin flame.
They are the other half of who we are. They are our eternal spiritual
partner, they are us.
When we finally meet this person, the connection is often obsessive and
uncanny for both. It shocks us to our very soul. Right now many people
are meeting their twin flames, whom they haven't seen in physical
for a long time. The more conscious twin will be just as shocked as the
runner twin, but perhaps better able to deal with it. The stayer twin
will analyse the situation and face it head on. They are willing to
give anything a go, willing to risk it all. They only want more of
their twin, and will face the fear willingly.
Not so the runner. We have to try to understand things from the
runner's perspective. They are not trying to hurt us, not usually
anyway (some twins can be emotionally damaged, and may be accustomed to
making love into a battle field). Usually they run out of blind fear.
Do they know why they run? I don't believe many of them truly do. They
are faced with change, and so they react the only way they can, to run.
Afraid Of Change And Waking Up
all of us wake up spiritually at the same time, in fact it would be
strange if all twin flames were in exactly the same place when they met
each other. One twin is always a little ahead of the other. I believe
the one that is ahead is a catalyst of great change for the behind one,
if they dare to take the challenge and stay. The fact that most, if not
all, run is a testament to how scary that challenge truly is.
Not everyone wants to take the fast road to spiritual or self
awakening. When we awaken spiritually, the first thing we do is to
start taking responsibility for all we have done in the past, and OWN
it. Depending on the life the runner has lead, they may not want to
take responsibility for any of it.
They may not have treated people very nicely, they could be lacking in
many ways, and to stay asleep is nice and comfortable for them because
then they don't have to face it. It is their choice to take a slower
road if that is less scary for them. They are still waking up, but in
their own time, rather than be with their evolved twin who is more
'together'. Such a relationship brings up lots of issues for them,
issues we could not imagine. We don't have to like the fact that they
run, but at some point we do have to accept their choice and try to
come to terms with it, even if that process takes years.
Does The Twin Flame Runner Feel Pain?
The runner numbs and denies their pain so, at first, they don't feel a
lot of pain. Or rather, they ignore it - big time! But the pain is
there nonetheless, and eventually it will find its way to the surface
to be felt and experienced. This is when twin flame regret beings for
the runners who just couldn't stay. They begin to regret what could
have been and what they lost.
Does The Twin Flame Runner Return?
Usually a runner will eventually turn
into the chaser
and start to chase
their twin. So yes, normally they will come back in some capacity, even
if it is a chance meeting and they say they want to try again.
It is karmic in many ways, this turning of the tables.
Unfortunately, the one they chase has moved on, processed the
devastating pain caused by the runner leaving, and will usually only
to be friends. This is the overwhelming pattern in most such
relationships. Time is what is needed the most to gain perspective for
both parties. With a bit of love and understanding, we can fully move
on from the pain of the runner running. Even though we only have one
twin flame, we do have many soul mates, so happiness will always find
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