Love & Embrace Your Past
Learning to accept and love our past
is possible over time and we can even learn to hug our past self, the
one that did those things we regret. There is a magic that can occur as we look back with
deep healing and forgiveness.
We all have a past, let's face it, and sometimes there are events that
hurt too much to look at. We tend to carry hurt and pain which can
affect our NOW, and this isn't healthy. We can actually transform our
own past with patience if we look back with a little love.
How Can We Heal The Past?
We do this kind of healing when we're alone with our thoughts. In a
way, we travel back in time whenever we remember something we wish we
could change. We usually think of loved ones and people who
meant something to us, remembering conversations we couldn't
understand at the time. Sometimes we range over many memories involving
people trying to get the flavor of it and seeing things
from their perspective. Why did they say or do that? We do this so we
can solve the mystery of the past by looking at our own
actions and then thinking of theirs. Complex memories need piecing
together to get the lesson from it. When a memory is very painful, we
not even look at it for awhile.
Some past events are painful to recall so we wait years before
we finally understand or "get" it. Often humans need to feel hurt over
and over in their memory whilst trying understand it. By doing this, we
always come to a healing at some point,
even if it takes decades. We eventually come into an awareness that we
forgive the past because, perhaps that is just how it was. We realise
that at that time, it couldn't be any different, and maybe things had
to be done wrong. This is how we
begin to move on and put it behind us completely. We need to love the
in order to forgive it, and very unlovable things CAN be
some point when we are ready.
Events That Were Traumatic
In order to move on from sad or traumatic events, we need to make some
kind of peace with them, and this can sometimes take a lot of time to
achieve. Especially violent or dangerous events can leave a nasty taste
that we think could never be forgiven so we carry the memory with us
the rest of our life, convinced we could never forgive this person
their crime, or never forgive another event for what it took from us.
As long as we feel this way, we also keep suffering, we keep reliving
it and holding on. We may not be interested in forgiveness. Yet time
can heal a lot of things, even such things as these if given enough
time. How does this healing feel when we come to it?
If you've been a victim of violence, rape, or the murder of someone you
loved, its possible to come to
a "kind of" peace after you have fully relived the experience many
times. Such events can be random, or sometimes our own soul agrees to
go through such an experience in order to make us stronger. Whether
there is a lesson or not, its possible to learn to let it go and move
components to moving on are time and acceptance. Sometimes we cannot
person no matter how much time passes. In this case we get another
chance in the afterlife to choose acceptance if we wish. We heal
ourself if we can understand the experience or accept what happened.
When we find acceptance, we realise "this is what happened and
I am okay with it now". Eventually it stops hurting and that is when we
let go, accept
and move on, usually for our own sake. Once we realise that the
perpetrator is simply a bad person, with bad intents in their heart,
we may even forgive them because they couldn't help being bad. This
always feels good as we let go of the memory. We put it to bed and just
let it be. Sometimes the universe seems unfair to us and none of us can
that. We have to let it be.
It is a strange fact that we often revisit the past mentally during the
period, which occurs 3-4 times a year and lasts for
three weeks a time. It is when mercury appears to travel backwards from
our vantage on earth, yet in reality it is always forward moving.
During these breaks, we tend to look at the past and any bad memory
that recurs strongest. We become more quiet and thoughtful during this
period and dwell more on the past. It feels like we are doing
inner work, even though we don't choose to do this. It is a quirk of
the retrograde, one we are obliged to follow.
Each mercury retrograde, the same issues may recur to you as you slowly
work through them. We always do this in parts, never all at once. We
can travel back to our earliest memories or things that happened twenty
years ago. We dwell on them and think them over, usually unhappily as
it is unhappy memories often that need the healing. We may do this 3-4
times a year just for a few weeks at a time. Each time we get closer to
healing, though it is so slow we may not even notice the progress we
We get stuck in the past for one or two weeks and it can depress us,
then the retrograde ends and we snap back to the present. It is often a
good idea to work with these periods and try to allow painful memories
to come if they need to. You will know it will end again in a week and
you can start to get back to normal again.
Loving Your Past Self
Lastly, we can often be unkind to ourself, especially the more
innocent 'you' who lived in the past, the one who made those mistakes
did very regretful things.
First of all - forgive those
Sometimes people do something awful and are so ashamed they believe
they might as well keep being bad. Please don't ever think this. If
you've ever done wrong, even something big, you should always
forgive and send love to yourself. We truly all make mistakes and
even evil things can be forgiven. It's important to give yourself
credit because you now know it was wrong. Resolve not to do it again.
Once you give up on yourself, you
could go down a bad road and really mess up. So forgive YOU
. You are so
Sometimes we have events in our past like being bullied; in fact
bullying happens to all of us at some point. This again can make
us feel ashamed and we don't want to think about it. When the memory
does surface, send love to you
Look back and give yourself a big hug. If there was no one to help you,
then you can send help back to you. What would you do now in that
situation? You may have a better answer and you can heal that past by
thinking of it. If you can, send the whole situation a lot of love and
then let it go.
Heal The Past
There are always difficult times that aren't healed immediately, and
that is where our imagination steps in, to offer answers. Whatever the
issue was, with family or at school, or later when you were working or
involved in a difficult relationship, you can send the healing back
into the memory. You can start to love the past.
It is very nourishing to forgive instances and drop old resentments,
because then we are able to let more life into right Now. We free up a
lot of energy and sometimes become more positive and energetic. It can
feel incredible to have a past without anger in it, or bitterness
nipping at our heals. It dissolves as we let it go. You could try a
ceremony and let off balloons, or burn old pictures, or write poetry or
letters of forgiveness you can then burn. Whatever works for you.
Healing the past doesn't have to be a chore although it can be
difficult to recall unhealed instances. When we put things right in our
mind, we may allow others to heal from it also. Once we are healed, we
will never have to deal with that memory again if we don't want to.
Just remember to not be angry, especially with yourself, but allow some
compassion into the past. We all know so much better now than we did
back then. We can now let it go and keep living our life.
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