Healing Empathy Fatigue
Is a sense of overactive empathy driving you to distraction? If you
find that you are particularly empathic to others' emotions and
feelings, you may want to consider winding it back somewhat. Learn to
save your empathy for those who count the most, and stop endlessly
feeling pulled in every direction under the
What Is Overactive Empathy?
Firstly, what is empathy? If you have just landed on this page, you can read about empathy in this article 10 Signs Of Being An Empath
After reading this you should know if this is your situation or not.
Many people born under a water sign or with a lot of water in their
chart can be like emotional sponges to others, and this is often to
their own detriment. (You can still be an empath even if you don't have
water influences.) If we are constantly linking to other's emotions,
when do we have time for our own emotional life?
Fortunately, an ability/gift like empathy can be honed, better understood, and also turned down
when we wish it.
The term 'overactive empathy' simply means a state where the empath is
not limiting their empathic reception, and may let it do as it pleases,
which can and often does cause total overload to an empath's emotional
body. It can take up a lot of time processing other people's issues and
resonating all too closely to pain that isn't even the empath's own. It
becomes a heavy and unwanted burden. If you are an empath who likes to
please people, then you will find yourself constantly trying to heal
the pain of others, and this is exhausting. This is a clear case of
How To Limit Empathic Reaction
The process that an empath goes through when they limit their reception
is not to turn empathy off completely, indeed this would be a very
difficult and undesirable thing to do. Our natural empathy is given to
us for a reason, for it is a way to gain information psychically about
those around us, and this is ALWAYS good. It is the way that we process the information
that causes empaths problems.
Since empaths are rarely trained in how to process the information that
is incoming to their emotional bodies, they tend to do what is easiest,
and that is to let it take them over with sensation and feeling that
others are experiencing. They do not realise that there is another way
to process these feelings that come from others. Of course, there is another way
First, the empath comes to the realisation that they can actually
control what is happening to them. For myself, this occurred like a
lightening bolt when someone gave me a book that discussed empathy and
how to fix overactive empathy. For the first time I realised that (1) I
was empathic, and (2) I could change the way I reacted and interacted
with the world!
Once this realisation is found - that this situation can completely change, the empath is halfway to doing this.
'What Is Yours' vs 'What Is Theirs'
This step is about learning to consciously identify which energy is
your own, and which comes from another. Spot it as it arises. Think to
yourself, "This pain, am 'I' in pain? Who is in pain, and why?"
If you identify it as your own reaction to something, deal with your
pain how you normally do; you will have to work through it. But if it
comes from outside of you, you do not have to deal with it
All you need to do is acknowledge it and then let it go. Do it
consciously. The emotion, whether anger, sadness, depression or even if
it is physical pain from another you are taking on, let it go. Have the
intention to let it go. Don't hold on. Focus elsewhere and dismiss it.
It is normal for many people to feel what others do, but once felt let it go
again. Make a decision if you even need to butt in and give advice.
Maybe you don't need to do that. If the pain or emotion does not belong
to you, feel it once then let it go and move on. Focus on what YOU are
feeling, not them. Moving your focus should be enough here. Focus on
what you think, not what they think. This is called centering. And the energy
you pick up from them will lessen to manageable levels.
The KEY Is - Be Less Personal
The next step in transforming empathy is to intend within yourself to
change your reaction to the information that is incoming from others.
You want to be able to sense what people are feeling, but not take on
those feelings personally.
Sense -> Be Aware -> Feel It -> Don't Engage In It -> LET IT GO
This is about taking a step back and watching what others feel without
embracing it. After plenty of embracing of other's emotions, it becomes
obvious that we can't fix everyone, in fact it is difficult enough just
trying to help one person, sometimes that is more than enough.
Going To The Other Extreme
Once you learn how to release others' emotions from yourself and instead center on
your own internal emotional and mental state, it becomes easier to let
go of all kinds of stuff. This freedom is deserved. You have not
really turned your empathy off, but you may be changing it into the
more useful 'clairsentience'. Clairsentience allows us to sense all
kinds of things but we do so detachedly. It is not personal. You can
sense everything without feeling it inside yourself so intimately.
It is rare that an empath will go to the other extreme to become
unfeeling, for you will always be very feeling in nature. But you may
go through a stint of declining to help others, so know that this is
normal, but not permanent. You may decide to take a break from helping
others constantly. You need to recover and get the hang of your new
found freedom from what you thought was a curse. Over time you will
to only help those who you are meant to, and not just everyone, for
this is not your job on earth. No one can heal everyone they come
across. Choose carefully who you give your energy to.
See The 7 Types Of Empaths
including Animal, Plant & Medical Empaths.
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