Do You Know A Psychic Energy Vampire?
An Energy Vampire is an
acquaintance or friend (or anyone) who
either deliberately or unwittingly drains us of energy, emotion or
vitality, thus leaving us exhausted. It can happen in our homes, in our
workplaces, or even just chatting with a neighbour. If you know of
anyone who you tend to avoid because they are just more trouble than
they are worth, they may just be an energy vampire. Is an Energy
Vampire Real? Yes, they absolutely do exist. It is a kind of
phenomenon that involves actual 'energy cording' from one person to
that is why they are often referred to as Psychic Vampires
. Below we will
define an energy vampire.
Spotting And Identifying An Energy Vampire
They are easy to spot once you can recognise the signs. These signs
- someone who talks a lot but does not listen
- someone who dominates at all times
- they can belittle the other's point of view
- they are all important, more so than anyone else
- they never reciprocate an act of kindness
- ask for favors, time and don't mind who is inconvenienced
- the attention must always be on them
- drama queen, creates mountains out of mole hills
- always sense disinterest and try to win back people
- pretend to be oblivious of anyone else's problems
- only 'give' if afraid of losing the person
Knowing An Energy Vampire
The way such a relationship begins is the vampire will zone in on a
who is often quite giving in nature and, ideally, sympathetic and/or
empathic towards the vampire.
way a vampire works is they must first establish a kind of bond or
friendship before they can engage in energy draining of another.
The way they
find their pray is through talking to people and simply mentioning
whatever problem is bothering them and waiting for
the reaction. If someone shows a passing interest or sympathy in those
problems, the energy vampire then seeks to form an instant bond of
these are usually not real bonds built out of reciprocated friendship
or any longstanding
association - rather they are quick, fly-by-night friendships that are
asserted, usually to the surprise of the unsuspecting victim. Most if
not all of these friendships are characterised
complimenting and by the repeated assertions that you are now friends.
In fact these compliments can be so profuse it can momentarily stun a
person into believing they are genuine. The compliments however are
designed to fool the sympathy giver into
believing that a real friendship has formed, allowing 'give and take'
happen in equal proportions, i.e. I compliment you and then you let me
The vampire then proceeds to stalk their pray with lists of issues and
problems that need to be listened to (often daily) whilst empathy is
sought. The vampire
will never wish to discuss the other person's issues or reciprocate in
any way other than a superficial two minute version of giving back
- once again this is to convince the giver that
the friendship is
on equal footing.
How An Energy Vampire Feeds
A vampire can mercilessly present issue after issue to burden their
acquaintance until they have received enough
kindness, consideration, empathy and energy from the kindhearted soul
they are draining. Here are a list of common examples to demonstrate:
"Why don't I just drop over for a cuppa tomorrow and we can
have a nice chat? I have missed you so much and I love spending time
with you, you are so smart."
1 we have an invitation to meet in person. This
sounds like such a lovely idea until the vampire drains the caring
friend of kindness and advice, leaving them feeling
confused and slightly angry at the intrusion, and exhausted by all the
love forced out of them.
is a phone conversation, which in theory seems nice. Usually
a vampire will not mind interrupting anyone or taking precious time
away from a giving friend who can little afford to lose it. A vampire
may say, "I was just thinking of
you and wondering if you are okay. How's it all going." Their friend
speaks for a minute, glad to catch up and get a little bit of the
stress off their mind. In return, a vampire can speak for 1-2
hours, slowly draining their friend of all they have. They slam the
feeling angry and hard done by but, after all, isn't this what friends
is the emails that begin to come more frequently than any
acquaintance can cope with. They
receive daily email digests several pages long of every issue an energy
drainer has, with the expectation of a prompt reply to discuss,
encourage, care or help make them feel better. This is
a seven day a week roster of emails, public holidays and Christmas
included. This has happened to myself and others simply from giving an
acquaintance an email address.
Pranic Drainage Energy Feeding
Whilst we are being drained of valuable time
energy we need for ourself, we are also
being drained of pranic energy/life force energy (Chi or Qi). The
actually connects an etheric cord/energy cord between us and them, one
that we may not be able to see, although we can
see or feel it 'psychically'. Each time they drain someone with their
issues, they go away feeling light as a feather and refreshed whilst
the other feels used, irritable, tired, drained or actually mad.
Drainage can also happen as we sleep. Once someone has this cord hooked
into our solar plexus chakra, they can drain away vital force energy as
long as we allow it and are 'open' to
them. In this case it is recommended to do a quick Cord Cutting as per
in order to sever any
unwanted etheric cords.
Stopping An Energy Vampire
Sometimes an energy drainer can be hard core in the way they seek to
stalk another for their advice or sympathy, wanting nothing less than
all we have to give. We have to shake
them properly unless we want them intruding on us constantly with a
relationship we never truly agreed to. Unless we approach them in the
exact right way,
they can make tenacious stalkers or even begin to use bullying tactics
or guilt to keep the sympathy flowing.
It is actually a kindness
to let them know in an unmistakable way that we are moving on. This can
help them to detach those etheric tentacles and find someone else. From
experience I have found that ignoring an energy vampire can
encourage them, for with silence we can be unwittingly consenting to
what has been going on. I have found that with any unwanted attention,
the best way to loosen someone's grasp is to confront and be blunt, and
never sugar coat the message or apologise.
When we say no to an invitation extended by them, we do not need
to provide a reason or explanation. One word is enough
- No. If they wish to know why we are ending the unhealthy
relationship, they may wish to use the reason to argue or
convince us otherwise. We do not have to explain our reasons
(especially if we barely know them) or let them tell us
that our feelings are wrong. I just leave at this stage and smile
because they now
have gotten the picture that I want those energy feeders out of my
Unfortunately for energy drainers, they need
sympathy in order to drain us and once they see that sympathy is
gone, they move on quickly to find new targets, leaving us feeling free.
I've had many experiences with energy vampires and stalkers over
years, all of whom I barely knew. At first
I thought I was supposed to learn a spiritual lesson from them, but
so many years of this I have come to realise the reason why it happens
is because energy vampires are everywhere and they are voracious. Once
we learn the trick to not apologise or feel guilty for standing up for
ourself, losing a vampire becomes a simple process and they find they
are unable to cord or extract the energy or time they wish so
dearly to take.
The co-article to this is Dating
An Energy Vampire
which is about male oriented attacks.
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