What Happens When The Chaser Gives Up?
Its a challenge to be the Twin Flame
Chaser in a relationship where
one person is perpetually
Running; I know this from personal experience.
The twin flame
not a pleasant experience because you have no control in this
situation. At least the runner has some control and may end up wanting
to make a relationship work out. In my example, I was the chaser for
three years of my life, yet when my
twin flame finally showed interest and wanted to talk to me, I actually
ran even though I didn't want to. Why would I do this?
The answer is that there is a lot of karma in twin flame relationships
and after three years of dreaming, hoping and obsessing, I finally
found myself in a situation where he was interested in me, and showed
that he wanted to talk to me. So what did I do? I began to run, even
though I didn't want to. It is almost like I needed to balance the
karma he had made between us by his own running.
I ended up running for exactly three years, after
which I never saw him again. We only saw each
other occasionally but it stopped at that mark, perhaps because the
karma was balanced. I was a twin flame chaser who gave up.
I suppose I
thought I'd been messed around with for too long and so I booted the
whole idea of him. Whilst he was chasing me and I was now running even
though I loved the idea of us together. But, I
had pause now to wonder if any of it was worth
it - plus there was the fear. There was also disgust, I'll admit it. I
was still obsessed with this man but he was no longer the new, shiny
knight in shining armor. He was the man who had shattered my heart in
a cruel way and I was feeling fear, but also love.
I always thought the love was stronger, but it turns out karma was a
stronger force. Although I wanted to be with him in every fiber of my
being, I just couldn't make the jump. He had to pay for what he had
done to me (though not in a vengeful sense) and I literally didn't have
But sometimes men or women do this to us. I have been in other
relationships that weren't soul connected, and the man was so confident
that he could lie to me and I wouldn't leave. Yet I got over him from
infatuation at its highest into disgust in only a few months (Yes, I
was proud of myself). He thought he could mess with me for a long time,
and maybe he could have if done right, but I knew too much about him on
a psychic level. It went from 'I love you' to 'You make me sick' very
quickly, until the thought of touching him made me want to hurl. It
didn't work out for him either.
Twin Flames are meant to be together in life. I knew this when I was
around him. But I wanted it anyway.
I don't believe that twin flames are ever meant to be enemies. We
should meet them and, if not in an active relationship, we should learn
how to forge a friendship with them. Yet often, we simply aren't mature
enough. The feelings between us are too intense, or they may have a bad
idea around relationships, i.e. we must fight or be at odds. Your twin
flame may just be a pig; or may be accustomed to using people. What we
do get from the experience is lessons and growing as a person. Many
times we do fight and move on, and this is a shame. Yet we learn from
our experiences and we should thank our twin flame and be glad.
Sometimes I wonder what I would do if I saw him again, yet I very much
doubt that would happen. It is hard to surrender to someone who treated
you shabbily, even if he did pay the price for it. The thing for me is
that I stopped chasing of my own accord, it happened the second he
began to chase me. I never planned to run. It seemed that fate was
sealed when he ran from me. I would only want to be friends with this
person and I am no longer obsessed. We were not supposed to be together
in this lifetime due to massive age and other differences between us,
and I can see that now.
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